Our roles , position and effect on the outer world gets defined at the time of our birth and we call it destiny .

Since we are born with specific nature , potentiality and attributes we would get attracted to people of that character only . Hence our endeavor to please everyone and get along with everyone is useless . It so happens that in order to please all and be in the company of all many a times create exertion and takes away the basic essence from us . We fall in the trap of wasting our energy on people who do not concern us .

Like i will elaborate with example- i have been a teacher for my whole life and have a huge set of so called friends . They have always tried to dissuade me from working saying that it is hampering my other achievements. Now since most of them are house wife and apart from their home have nothing much to contribute hence my working status appears worthless for them and though it matters a lot to me .

So we are not compatible and hence what happens is that initially when they planned out outings and get-together then it was at a time when i was bound to be unavailable because of my professional commitments . As a result i always felt anxious and left out .

Slowly I realized those set of friends were not part of my inner world for they did not match my priorities and nature . There company had started giving me distress and mental agony . I withdrew from them in order to keep my cool and continue with the work which gave me emotional well-being . Today also they are my friends but with a distance where they don’t enter my inner world or space and I meet them only when required .

So we have to very early identify our nature, our work profile , our priorities and move forward . Shun the company of people who add to our perplexity , anxiety for they are not made for u . They will always try to pull u down and hamper your growth . This could be easily achieved if we know what our world is and where we fit in . We might be happier with less social less rich people than with false people . So our space should be clear .

This space is our own world in this universe and will help us in our growth and development and that is all why we have come to this world . To accumulate good enriching experiences and move towards emotional fulfillment called inner awakening .

Mamta Mehrotra