But what have we gained . We have gained nothing for we have wasted our whole energy in working on other person. Our time , resource , energy all gone to a waste .

Though we have the satisfaction of building a wrong impression of that person and ostracizing in society but if that person has real character , a strong will power , a desire to revert then he/she will do with stronger vigor and that will benefit him/ her . We have become fools by just wasting our energy in that direction . Had it been better we would have concentrated on our own worth and enhanced it than criticizing the other person .

I will elaborate with example- mostly we harm s person either we are jealous or lack the requisite expertise to achieve what someone else has done . I will again quote my own life experience – i had over the years became popular and was called for lot of inaugurations , social gatherings etc.

few of my counterparts got so jealous that they played games on Facebook and other social platforms for a day or two .

I was neither mentally prepared nor in a position to retaliate , so i withdrew and concentrated on my energies . I enhanced my skill in cooking , singing and writing – got more of my books published and worked on myself . The energy i was wasting in public got a better share for myself and i emerged a stronger person with more credits to my name .

Hence criticism should be taken in right stride and those who are tarnishing your name or finding faults will automatically finish once you have moved forward .

-Mamta Mehrotra